Learning to set effective boundaries is the key to living a happy life where our needs take priority. But for most of us, setting boundaries seems like the hardest thing we can do. Instead of setting boundaries and being clear about the consequences, most of us resort to making demands and then backing away […]
Do you have a place where you can show up, be totally yourself, be heard, feel seen, witnessed and valued?
Before you can ask for what you want, you have to figure out what that is! To do that, you must “stay home” within yourself.
If we don’t uncover and challenge our childhood beliefs in adulthood, we continue to relate to them as facts, and they affect our relationships.
Our core wounds are the deepest, most profound sources of pain inside of us. They stem from our origin story, and we usually attract someone who “activates” those wounds. Your core wounds—and the limiting beliefs they have installed in your unconscious—want to be healed. That movement toward healing is a drive within us that can’t […]
Here’s a radical thought: We can still care about another person without “taking on” their emotions or problems. For those of us who have been codependent for our entire life, this can be a difficult concept to grasp at first. We have to keep catching ourselves in the act of becoming enmeshed in our partner’s […]
Although I’m an early riser and definitely a morning person, I’ve never been a roll-out-of-bed-and-go kinda girl. I like to take my time…to meditate, then ritualistically have my coffee, write in my journal and look out the window. Even if I have an early flight or am on the road with an early call-time, I […]
Your origin story has been directing your relationship history, much like the director of a movie. The beliefs you created during your early years draw the people, relationships, and situations toward you that reinforce those beliefs. And that’s not always a good thing. For example, if you unconsciously believe that men can’t be trusted, you’ll […]
I’m going to start with the good news. Regardless of your past, you CAN change your relationship patterns and adopt a NEW Relationship Blueprint and find the love you want! Yay! Here’s the thing…those pesky patterns are exactly what’s keeping you stuck, unsatisfied and maybe feeling a bit deflated when it comes to love. And […]
I want to set the record straight on who my “relationship stuff” is for (and who it’s NOT for.) See, I’ve been getting email replies and posts from my peeps and they all start out with “Nancy, I really love your work but…” …but I just had a bad break-up/divorce and I don’t think I […]