Liberate Your Light
After I left my marriage and began to dismantle the belief that my self-worth was contingent on being perfect and doing things for others, my good friend Patty took me shopping. This was huge for me—I rarely spent money on myself, and shopping was my least favorite activity. But Patty was resolute, ferrying me to […]
The Price of Secrets: The Truth You Already Know
Up until that day I found out my husband had read my journals, I had never told anyone about my affair. I mean nobody—not my dear sister, not my closest friends, no one. I’d compartmentalized my life to such a degree that it wasn’t even hard to keep it a secret. I was afraid of […]
What does your freedom feel like?
Freedom means different things to different people. I found my freedom by entertaining the idea that I no longer had to be at the mercy of another human being. My client Nicole found freedom in a bathing suit. Here’s her story: Nicole’s Story: I wore a bikini. I wore a bikini on a beach in […]
Peering over the precipice of change!
I was in a hotel with Louise Hay in London, lamenting the fact that I wanted to jump, but felt too afraid. Big-time resistance! “It’s like wanting to get to the other side of the river, yet clinging to a branch on this side for dear life,” Louise told me. “The only way we can […]
Say “yes” to more freedom!
The first time I set a boundary with my now ex-husband during our divorce process was not only the first time I set a boundary with him, it was the first boundary I’d set with anyone in my entire life! It was the first time I ever thought purely about my own needs, the first […]
Whose life are you living?
For years, I sublimated my own desires in service of my husband’s. I wasn’t living my own life. Poet David Whyte has said that if you are living the life you are meant to live, someone will inevitably feel betrayed by it. My ex-husband can legitimately say that I betrayed him by having an affair. […]