When we stop resisting and surrender to the situation exactly as it is, things begin to change. —Debbie Ford

How do you know if what you’re feeling is just resistance and not a sign that making a life change would be a mistake? How do you know if it’s an excuse in logical clothing or a warning sign that you don’t want to ignore?

If you feel defensive about making a change, if you’re making excuses for why you can’t make the change, or if you feel defeated before you even begin, you are probably experiencing resistance. If you want the change but feel you can’t let go of what you already have, you are probably experiencing resistance. If you’re trying to convince yourself that your current life isn’t so bad, you’re experiencing resistance.

Emmanuel said, “Set aside who you are supposed to be and become who you really are, and be willing to savor that experience. In the beginning, it may be hard to tell if you are really being who you are, but eventually—and this is a promise—your heart will sing and you will have touched the essence of your being. Once you have touched it, you can never more pretend you do not know the essence of love that you are.”

The antidote to excuses is taking responsibility and making choices. Reconnect with what you want. When you envision your life after the change, how does it feel? Do you feel excited by the possibilities?

Imagine what it would be like to let go of fear and have whatever you want. If there were no consequences whatsoever…what choice or change would you make today?