Why ‘easy’ isn’t actually easy!
When we betray ourselves and others, it’s often because we’ve made the “easier choice” – consciously or unconsciously. But this “easier choice” is actually the cowardly choice. For example, at the time, I mistakenly believed that it was easier for me to have an affair than to tell myself, and my husband, the truth of wanting out […]
Learn to Love ALL of You!
Freedom feels different to different people. I found my freedom by entertaining the idea that I no longer had to be at the mercy of another human being. My client Nicole found freedom in a bathing suit. Here’s her story: I wore a bikini. I wore a bikini on a beach in plain sight of […]
Stop ignoring the whisper!
When something is “off” in your life, you know it. And it takes an incredible amount of energy to continue the denial—energy that could be used toward letting go of the old and inviting in the new. That’s what I learned when things finally fell apart in my marriage. And, to my great delight, the new […]
Become a Boundary Badass!
I had absolutely no idea how to set boundaries prior to finding my way through my divorce. Most of us don’t know how to set them. We’re taught to put others ahead of ourselves. (This is especially true for women, but there are plenty of men who have the same issue.) I have heard my […]
Can you see the gift in your projections?
Ever notice how the people closest to you can also trigger the heck out of you? She’s so selfish. He’s so rude. She’s a know-it-all. He’s irresponsible. But, here’s the deal: Every characteristic we don’t like in someone else, exists within us as well. As the old saying goes – when you point a finger at someone […]
Begin with One Different Choice
When we first begin making different choices–even one different choice–and start taking back control of our lives, it can initially feel like we are losing control. We’re often outside our comfort zone and we seldom have any idea what to expect from the future. Eventually, if we persevere, we learn that it’s an illusion to […]
How to Get Unstuck
Movement mobilizes possibility. One decision can create a big shift in your life and propel you forward. Even just one small forward movement can cause a positive ripple effect. This step often impacts us in ways we can’t predict, or may not even fully recognize at first. Change begins with making a different choice. Taking […]
Whose life are you living?
So much of the time, we would rather stay small and imprisoned than face the uncertainty of becoming who we are meant to be. The resentment that comes with keeping our dreams under wraps may be a life sentence, but it’s also a known commodity. It’s within our comfort zone. In order to stay there, […]
Do You Tell Yourself the Truth?
As a kid, like most children, I was trying to figure out who I needed to be and what I needed to do to get the most love possible, while avoiding trouble and pain as much as I could. For me, attempting to be perfect was simply an unconscious survival strategy. As I’ve shared […]
Are You Afraid of Fun!
Do you think fun is frivolous? Does play make you feel anxious? Do you relate to leisure as being lazy, unproductive and irresponsible? I get it. I used to be just like you. My perfectionism and my history—the pain I experienced around my brother’s death when I was so young—turned me into someone who […]