My Independence


“What do you mean you don’t have a car?!” a friend asked me last August in a total state of disbelief.

“Well, he got the truck in the divorce…”

Those words had come out of my mouth countless times before, but on this particular day it finally struck me – that truck is not the only vehicle on the planet!

I had been living on my own for two and a half years already, and had plenty of reasons for not needing a car: I could ride my bike or walk everywhere, I had friends with cars, I travel so much for work that a car would just sit there…

But the truth is that I wanted a car.

The voices tried to unravel me. It took several months to work through my issues of worthiness. I had given so much to so many, it was time to give to me. And even with all  the money that went down the drain during the divorce, I was blown away that I could still easily afford the exact car that I wanted. So with that, I started test driving!

Even though I was the breadwinner and handled all the money stuff throughout my marriage, one of the best by-products of my divorce was that I got really intimately invested in my investments, instead of spending money to buy someone else’s happiness or safety or love.

In April, when I finally drove my brand new Nissan Xterra off the lot, I was filled with giddy sensations of liberation and freedom. Even now, a few months later, getting in my car is still an exciting novelty – even going to Target feels like a road trip!

And nothing tastes as sweet as my independence!

Happy 4th of July!!!



  1. L.Edinberg on July 4, 2013 at 3:50 pm

    Love that independence comes in all forms! Happy 4th and the independence you have released! You are worthy of greatness!

  2. Beverly Elba on July 4, 2013 at 3:54 pm

    Absolutely fantastic! Congratulations on ‘driving for your life’! ox

  3. Parvin Kolahdooz on July 4, 2013 at 9:29 pm

    I know how it feels. I bought my first brand new car and brought it home on August 20th 2010. I kept the sign “I am sold” in the car. Every time I look at the sign a sense of pride fills my body. I thank my car every day I use it. I have Toyota RAV 4. I love my car.