Darryll Stinson: [00:00:00] When people think legacy, they always think about, how will I be remembered? And they’re like, I wanna be remembered for this. And I don’t think they always translate it to their daily actions. And so for me, that was a big shift in my mentality of like, oh, I want to build something that I can be remembered for.
Darryll Stinson: So I wanna live in a way today in a way that would be remembered.
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Nancy Levin: Welcome back to another episode of the Nancy Levin Show. I am really delighted to have my guest, Darryll Stinson here with us. Darryll has become a dear friend, colleague, and someone I really trust in the space of. Creation and connecting and sharing our story and speaking. And so Darrell is the co-founder of Seeding Greatness, a movement of leaders restoring the planet and helping humanity to heal through their stories and transformational services.
Nancy Levin: As a former elite Division one athlete, Darrell overcame multiple suicide attempts to become a multiple bestselling author, including. His latest book, the System of Self-Care, and a two-time TEDx speaker with [00:02:00] more than 2 million views, his accolades as a top 100 athlete, award-winning higher ed communications professional number nine, suicide awareness.
Nancy Levin: Speaker and TEDx organizer attest to the impact. Of his work. He has coached hundreds of speakers to reach millions of people while growing themselves and their businesses at the same time. Darryl, welcome.
Darryll Stinson: Uh, let’s go. I’m, I can’t wait for this. This is gonna be so good.
Nancy Levin: I’m so looking forward to our conversation.
Nancy Levin: I will just say from the moment I met you, I felt magnetized toward you and toward everything that you share in the world and the way that you so transparently allow your own personal experiences to be the lens through which you teach us how to share our own stories. [00:03:00] And, uh, so I, I want, I really wanna just give you a few moments here to share with the listeners your origin story.
Nancy Levin: I mean, where, you know, where you were, where you came from, where you thought your life was going. What happened when it took a turn and how you got to where you are now.
Darryll Stinson: Yeah, totally. Totally. I love it. And I’ll, and I’ll sort of put the lens of storytelling onto my origin story. Please, please. ’cause I think that for the listeners, you know, if you have a story to share, if you feel like you have a message that can be beneficial to other people, I think it’s good to know how you’ve been shaped your entire life.
Darryll Stinson: Right? Like we always say there’s our learned experience. Then there’s our lived experience, right? Our learned experiences, our, our credentials, our schooling, our certifications, our backgrounds we’re certified, Nancy Levin coaches and all those things. Our lived experience is the things that the hard knocks of life taught us.
Darryll Stinson: And what I learned is like I. The best communicators, the best influencers, the people that make [00:04:00] the most impact in the world. They combine their lived and their learned experience in order to create the dynamicness that is them. And so for me, I grew up in a small town, Jackson, Michigan, um, and I was a bright, brilliant kid.
Darryll Stinson: My mother put me in accelerated learning classes and I thought that I was going to be like one of the most popular people in the world because everyone liked me. That was funny. I was super smart. Um, everyone cheated on my test. I was all a student with perfect attendance. I. And one day I’m walking back from a bathroom break and I get made fun of by these black students for what they said, talking and acting white.
Darryll Stinson: And it created an insecurity in me that who I was authentically wasn’t enough to be liked or loved by other people. I started to cage my light. I started to become a different version of myself that I felt would gain me like love acceptance specifically from this, the African American community, [00:05:00] and it worked.
Darryll Stinson: They embraced me. I got street cred. I went from being an all A- student with perfect attendance to, by the time I was in the seventh grade I was skipping school, selling drugs, having sex with women, um, getting in fights and just living a very misaligned life. And that sort of kept up all the way through college, compounding that with the fact that I was becoming a really great athlete.
Darryll Stinson: And so I noticed that man, people didn’t care if I talked black or talk white. They didn’t care if I listened to rap music or listened to country. They just were connected to the fact that I was playing with some of the best athletes in the US and was, you know, Michael Jordan’s son, and Brandon Jennings and Draymond Green.
Darryll Stinson: And you know, I can just name drop all day of the, you know, caliber of athletes that I played with and against. And so I sort of clung to that identity as an athlete as like, oh, a man. This is how I gain love. This is how I gain acceptance. And so it was this big mask of I’m a street [00:06:00] thug. People like and love me for that.
Darryll Stinson: I am a athlete. People like love me for that, but who I am authentically and the inside is buried. So the more that they accepted this false version of me, the more rejected the real version of me felt the entire time. Now, I’ll take you deeper into my story a little bit, but I just wanna pause and say, here’s where one of my storytelling skills came into play because I had to study people.
Darryll Stinson: So deeply to figure out what made them like me.
Nancy Levin: Mm-hmm.
Darryll Stinson: And mimicked that personality. I literally had to embody a whole nother persona in order to be received by other people. And one of the ways that that has formulated my gifts. Is that I’m able to insert myself into someone else’s experiences and see what resonates in their world.
Darryll Stinson: You know, one of the biggest dangers that speakers make is that they talk too much and listen too little. We have one mouth and two ears for a reason. The best speakers aren’t only great [00:07:00] orators.. They’re the best listeners.
Nancy Levin: Mm-hmm.
Darryll Stinson: And the more that we can listen to the true day in the life of our audience that we want to speak to and inspire, the better that we can communicate things that connect with them and resonate with them.
Darryll Stinson: And so I developed this gift to be able to insert myself into other people’s experience. So I’ll finish in the loop here of the story. Um, I ended up playing, uh, division one football at Central Michigan University. I was supposed to be one of the next best athletes to come out of the state of Michigan. I got hurt, uh, long story short, after a big opioid addiction and playing after a back surgery.
Darryll Stinson: I got kicked off the team and I attempted suicide multiple times and, um, ended up in a psychiatric unit in Detroit, Michigan. It was there that two things happened. Number one, I found faith and what I believed to be Christ. Number two, I found out about self care. I did my first journal entry. Did my first mindfulness exercise.
Darryll Stinson: Literally had to color a picture without any [00:08:00] distraction or noise or television. And I did all of these things, um, and I learned that there was this whole world on the inside that was available to me that I wasn’t connecting with, that I had shut off from feeling, I was numbing myself to what I was feeling inside.
Darryll Stinson: And this psychiatric care facility taught me that man self-care is. Connecting you to the world that’s inside of you. And so, man, I left that place determined that I was gonna do two things. Number one, I was gonna follow my purpose and follow God and be all that I can be. And number two, I wasn’t gonna have a system of success without having a system of self-care.
Darryll Stinson: Most high achievers have a system of success, Nancy, but they don’t have a system of self-care. And that’s why I wrote that second book to be able to empower ’em, do that.
Nancy Levin: I so appreciate your story, and for everyone listening, you can automatically see why Darryll and I resonate so much and why and how there is such a beautiful intersection here.
Nancy Levin: [00:09:00] I really wanna point out a few things. In what you shared, you really took the experience of being a chameleon. Mm-hmm. And you were able to leverage that experience into empathy. Yeah. And so that you, like you said. In studying everyone and who do I need to be for this person? You are also able to then propel it into what is going to be the message and the way to communicate this message for a specific group of people that’s going to land most for them.
Nancy Levin: Totally. So, totally. I think that’s a really important point and a really beautiful way to see a gift in what we do. Tend to, uh, you know, in looking back, I also have it, you know, the whole thing of, you know, packaging ourselves to be palatable to everyone else. And, you know, being that chameleon and. I resonate very much with what you shared.
Nancy Levin: Yes. It’s given me, it’s given me a [00:10:00] deeper insight into different walks of life, so I really appreciate that point. The other point that I think is so essential is, uh, about the lived experience and the learned experience and the, and the intersection of those, and then. Also, and I’d love to hear you speak more about this.
Nancy Levin: You know, I often say most of us do wait for a crisis before we make change. And, and so, you know, I have really been about we need to rock our own foundation before it rocks us. And so instead of, and really what if, what if the crisis point becomes the catalyst for, for opportunity and in all of my crises have absolutely become the catalyst to the next opportunity.
Nancy Levin: And I’d love to hear you share a little bit about that,
Darryll Stinson: Man. I don’t know why we wait to, yeah. A crisis to do things that we [00:11:00] already deep down inside know to do. You know, I think it was Michael Beckwith who says that pain pushes until the vision pulls and a lot of people are either running away from pain or just trying to avoid it altogether.
Darryll Stinson: Like it’s a powerful moment in our lives when we realize our power to choose. If you think about creation, and you know, most of creation operates just naturally. They don’t have like us as humans, the ability to choose and create the reality. You know, like they just. Are, and we are the only species on the planet that have the ability to choose to think, to consciously create.
Darryll Stinson: And so we can choose to be misaligned. We can choose to go in a different direction than our ultimate north light or our true purpose. We can make that choice and most people have to have a wake up call [00:12:00] before they do it. I don’t think that. That’s, you know, mandatory. I think people that listen to this podcast, I think that’s a big part of why I speak.
Darryll Stinson: I’m sure it’s a big part of why you do the same, is to give people that fork in the road to say, Hey, listen, you can wait till the end of your life and be like, man, I wish I would’ve, or you can make a conscious choice that I’m going to now. For me. Yeah. That moment in the psychiatric unit definitely forced me to change. It gave me the opportunity to, but since then I’ve chosen change.
Darryll Stinson: Yeah. Like I’ve intentionally sought out my barrier because I wanted to, you know, everyone I used to hear, hear a bunch of speakers saying that the richest place on earth is the graveyard because it’s filled with all the buried dreams and ideas and all plans that never got executed and that really motivated me to make sure that that wasn’t me.
Darryll Stinson: I didn’t want to not have a book be released. I didn’t want to not have a [00:13:00] speech be expressed. And not only like things that were I was supposed to do, but I, because of my story, I just showed you how suppressed I was. I didn’t want to cage how I was wanted to be in life. Like I literally did a brand shoot this morning that I think is gonna change.
Darryll Stinson: I, I, I took a video. I said, I think I just made history because. I surveyed a a hundred of the top speaker websites and all of them were like me on stage, me with the microphone, me with talking to the person in the hallway, me signing my book, and none of it was like a fully expressed like, I mean, they might have a family photo.
Darryll Stinson: I. But I’m like, do you do anything for fun? Do you ride a motorcycle? Do you play basketball? Do you, do you do anything but speak? And it’s like, no, I wanna be known as a speaker. And I’m like, yeah, me too. As a speaker who has a life. And so I was out nature, I was playing with this rope. I’m on a basketball.
Darryll Stinson: Like I wanted it to be a full display of me because we’re multidimensional beings. And I think that’s gonna be the [00:14:00] trend moving forward for the next generation of, of leaders is those that are fully expressed are the ones that are going to be the most well received ’cause people are going to receive from authenticity because of how information has become a commodity.
Darryll Stinson: That’s a mouthful. Let me stop there.
Nancy Levin: It it is, but it’s, I do think it’s accurate and I do think that. You know, we are moving into a really different time where, what worked in the past and the way that, the way that the old guard presented and were represented Yes. Is no longer sticky for us.
Darryll Stinson: Yes. Yeah. Yes, a hundred percent.
Darryll Stinson: And we can feel it, like, you can feel it when somebody’s just up there like da da, da, info, info, info, chat, chat, chat, chat. And it’s like. Dude, I could have asked Chat GPT how to solve this problem and right. They could’ve given me an answer. I’m listening ’cause I’m trying to feel something. Mm-hmm. I’m listening [00:15:00] because I wanna find something that can only be caught.
Nancy Levin: Yeah.
Darryll Stinson: And it can’t be taught. And the only way that we can communicate things that are caught, not taught is by fully expressing all of who we are.
Nancy Levin: You’re speaking my language, you know, and so this to me sort of. Ties into the ways in which we as speakers really need to embrace our visibility. And I know that when I talk about visibility, it’s, it’s not just about being seen, I talk about it as actually drawing attention to ourselves, to really owning the spotlight, to really.
Nancy Levin: Drawing, you know, owning our glow, drawing, drawing the attention toward us. And I, I would love to hear your perspective on your own experience with visibility.
Darryll Stinson: I historically have had a challenge with visibility. [00:16:00] Now there’s a separation. It’s not I, in visibility and hate, I won. It’s, I had a tendency to, in the past, there’s enough space and separation from the behavior, my identity, that now I can grow from it versus being stuck to it.
Darryll Stinson: One of the greatest threats to people’s potential is who they think they are. Mm-hmm. Or who they think they are not. Okay.
Nancy Levin: Mm-hmm.
Darryll Stinson: For me, historically, I despise visibility for two reasons. Number one, I was afraid to be rejected.
Nancy Levin: Mm-hmm.
Darryll Stinson: I was afraid that if I’m fully expressed. I will be hurt, and I’m a feeler.
Darryll Stinson: I cannot unfeel, I’m pouring my heart out, trying to pour light into people and they’re like making fun of me or taking a clip and using it in the wrong way or misfolding me and, and like, it’s just, ugh. It’s just, it hurts. It breathes me. Dings me. ’cause I truly do care. Like, you know, people that say, don’t care what people think about you.
Darryll Stinson: I care when people think about me. I don’t care if they, if I’m [00:17:00] their favorite person, I don’t have that ego about it, but I want them to receive what I’m saying because I want, I feel like it can help them. It’s, and so that’s one reason. And then the other reason is in similar, it’s like. How fickle people are.
Darryll Stinson: Like, I, I learned this as an athlete. Like when we would win games on campus, oh my God, I could get free lunch, free dinner, free breakfast, free apparel. I could skip class. We were heroes when we lost. We were on the front page of the student newspaper they saw, and I can literally go from, he’s the best athlete ever.
Darryll Stinson: He needs to be drafted first round to, he sucks. Kick him off the team in a week and oh my gosh, I did not want that because to me, the visibility. Comes with humanness. You cannot, you can’t make people perfect. They’re going to be up and down and follow the wind, [00:18:00] liking one day and hate to the next.
Darryll Stinson: And you just got thick skin and know who you are so that that doesn’t waver you. So historically I would avoided the all cost ’cause I didn’t want to experience any of those things I just mentioned.
Nancy Levin: Yeah. And you know, in that there is. A piece of what you alluded to earlier in terms of the self-care piece, because really self-care is self connection.
Nancy Levin: When you have the self connection and you have a solid foundation within, what I often will say is that the, you know, when we’re fearing that judgment or criticism from the external. It really is a mirror to the criticism and judgment we’re already doing a number on ourselves with, and so, you know, the, the self care, the self connection and that self, that foundation with yourself.
Nancy Levin: Then there’s no, I like to say there’s no Velcro for the external judgment to stick to if I’m in right relationship with [00:19:00] me and I wonder
Darryll Stinson: So good. That’s so good. That is so good. I’m so sorry. I’m just like, yeah, no, that’s,
Nancy Levin: Yeah.
Nancy Levin: So I wanna hear more about that shift in you around self-care. And listen, it is really incredible to see you and really championing self-care.
Nancy Levin: Yeah. And the, yeah. The essential nature of it. And I’d. I would love to just hear more about the way that you approach it and the way, yeah, and the way that you share about it and the way that you see people shift. Around it.
Darryll Stinson: Oh my God. But number one, just wanna say thank you. I’m going to steal the line that self care is really self connection.
Darryll Stinson: Yeah. Okay. I don’t think I’ve ever articulated it in that way, but that was so good.
Nancy Levin: Good. I’m so glad. Yeah. Yeah.
Darryll Stinson: And it’s so clear and it’s so what I’ve been saying, but just not in that way. Um, and, and even the [00:20:00] mirror part, and the reason why self connection is important is because your world, your external world is the mirror of your internal world.
Darryll Stinson: Right. Everything you’re saying there is so true. And so, so for me it was gradual. But there were moments in times where it was like, you know, transformational. Like to me, transformation is when you take decades and then days collapse time.
Nancy Levin: Mm-hmm. Right?
Darryll Stinson: Like this is why mentorship is powerful. This is why people going through your programs are powerful because it’s like, man, they’re taking from decades of wisdom and now you’re shortening their gaps, sharing their growth, shortening the timeframe in which they can become like you or better than you.
Darryll Stinson: Because of the information, the way that you facilitate the environment. And so I have a combination of both that resulted in the shifts for me. One, it was very gradual. It’s 10 years right? Overnight. Success started 10 years ago, right? And it’s going to counseling when I didn’t feel like it. I, I, mirror work was big for me.
Darryll Stinson: I would look into the mirror and originally I couldn’t look at my own [00:21:00] reflection, Nancy, for more than like five, 10 seconds.
Nancy Levin: Mm-hmm.
Darryll Stinson: You know, because every time I looked in the mirror, all I saw was what was wrong with me. I saw the bad choices I made. I saw the pain I was feeling, I saw the regrets I had.
Darryll Stinson: I saw the facial features that I didn’t like about myself, the gap in my teeth that used to get made fun of by kids who tried to cook paper football through it, the color in my skin that when whenever the lights would go off and we would watch Bill the Science Guy, they, they would say, where did Darryl go?
Darryll Stinson: All we can see is his teeth in his eyes, and it’s like, that’s all I would see when I looked in the mirror. Part of doing mirror work for me was like, Hey, can I gaze into my own reflection until I see beyond the flaws and see the light, see the gifts, see the beauty, see the smile, see the joy, see who I really am.
Darryll Stinson: And man, it started with not even being able to do it for five, 10 seconds and I would just consistently come back, you know, here and there, and try it again. And [00:22:00] try it again and try it again. And now I can, oof. I might get emotional saying this. Oof. Look into the mirror and actually like me.
Nancy Levin: Mm,
Darryll Stinson: I hated who I was and now I love who I am.
Darryll Stinson: And that happened because I kept showing up to that mirror even when I didn’t like what I saw. And I think that’s an important part to mention here, because I think we can tell you to do all these things, to grow yourself, to get your story into the world. And if you suck at it. If it hurts, and if you don’t have a, uh, exhilarating experience the first time we usually go, well, it’s not like they said, they said mirror work would change me, but mirror work made me feel worse.
Darryll Stinson: Well, sometimes it has to feel worse before it feels better. You ever get back in shape? Don’t it feel worse?
Nancy Levin: That’s the truth.
Darryll Stinson: It’s, it’s no different. It’s so true. You’re outta breath. You can’t, your, your [00:23:00] muscles are sore. Why? Because you’re, you haven’t done it. You’re new to it. It sometimes it’s gotta get worse before it gets better. Ever change your life financially? Oh man. You’re used to spending every dollar that you make when you, now you start budgeting, you start putting some under savings and investing, and you feel restricted in your life.
Darryll Stinson: It feels worse or it feels better. You ever reconcile the a, a conflict with your spouse or your significant other? It’s like, oh man, here you go. It’s tense. It’s the pressure are high. The emotions are high. You’re mad at the other person. You’re angry, you’re sweating, you’re, you’re boiling with anger, and then you talk to the conflict.
Darryll Stinson: And now intimacy is on the other side of conflict resolution. It gets worse before it gets better. That’s. Part of how it happens for me.
Nancy Levin: Yeah. There’s something really potent in what you’re sharing also from the perspective of being a really powerful voice and advocate for mental health. Sort of breaking the barriers of silence around, I would say men of color and [00:24:00] mental health and vulnerability.
Nancy Levin: And knowing you, you are the first person to hug. You are the first person to cry. You are the first person to, you know, to like you are a feeling human. And I imagine that transition into really letting yourself be in that part of that truth of who you are versus the toxic masculine part. Yeah. You know, especially I would imagine as an athlete or ways in which you were trying to prove yourself to others, and then you were so primed to allow yourself to be stripped of all of that.
Nancy Levin: To go within. Yeah. To have the reinvention, to have the rebirth that you did. Mm,
Darryll Stinson: So, so true. I said it earlier on the podcast, but some of the greatest threats to our highest levels of success is who we think we are. Yeah. Or who we think we are not. And one of the things I used to say a lot is that I am not an [00:25:00] emotional person.
Darryll Stinson: One of the things that I’ve heard a lot of people say is that. I’m not an emotional person. They really believe that they’re not emotional and it couldn’t be anything further from the truth. So I do feel like there is a gift of empathy. There is a gift of like, uh, like a spiritual, uh, like innate ability for some to feel at a deeper, uh, wider.
Darryll Stinson: More complex level, but I feel like as human beings, we were wired to feel, we all had emotions.
Nancy Levin: Yeah.
Darryll Stinson: But somehow over the course of our life from parents telling us that we’re supposed to be seen and not heard, uh, from the way that the older generation used to raise their children with more force than flow, uh, from a society that sort of pumped up these hyper masculine people that you know.
Darryll Stinson: Take a licking and keep on ticking. Um, somehow we taught ourselves that um, emotions [00:26:00] weren’t cool. Yeah. Weren’t gonna get us popularity or respect. And I do believe that that paradigm is on its way out fast. I think people can. Feel and emotion are becoming really irrelevant. The leader who has all the answers and doesn’t have any vulnerability or weakness is like becoming a rareness right now.
Darryll Stinson: And we are seeing a shift in terms of people valuing emotional intelligence, the ability to, uh, discern emotion, but also the ability to emote and express them as leaders. And so, man, for me, that’s such a big, you know, banner. Um, because I see humanity struggle with that and yeah, especially men of color.
Nancy Levin: Hmm. One of the things you, one of the things you do is you train speakers how to essentially, we could say, turn their wounds into wisdom on stage. Uh, you’ve helped so many people shape their pain into powerful speaking engagements, [00:27:00] opportunities, and. What would you say is the most important lesson someone needs to learn before they can speak, as I often like to say, they can speak from their scars and not be in their wound.
Darryll Stinson: Mm-hmm. That’s a great way to put it. I so agree. Um, number, number one. Oh, there’s so much I could say here. Number one, realize that vulnerability has a spectrum. We think that vulnerability means share your deepest, darkest secret. Cry unravel on stage. That is not what the word vulnerability means. The word vulnerability means to be open.
Darryll Stinson: Hmm? Yeah. To be open. And when you’re open, you’re open to pain, you’re open to joy, you’re open to a standing ovation. You’re open to getting rushed and brushed off the stage. You’re open to it all. You’re open to criticism. You’re open [00:28:00] to praise, like, and that’s what people are afraid of when it comes to vulnerability.
Darryll Stinson: They’re afraid to be open. Now, the spectrum of vulnerability I described is pain, power, trauma to truth. It takes just as much openness and strength as it does to communicate one’s pain. As it does to stand in one’s power, it takes just as much openness and courage to communicate one’s trauma as it does to stand in one’s truth.
Darryll Stinson: So when I open up and I talk about me attempting suicide, people say, oh, that’s so vulnerable. That’s so vulnerable. And I agree it is, but it’s just as vulnerable. When I stood in a group in front of a group of African Americans for Black History Month and I said, Hey. In order for us to actually break the chains of slavery, we have to stop living like we’re still slaves.
Darryll Stinson: [00:29:00] Now, that was vulnerable. They could have kicked me out and, and some people were in the back looking very upset about that remark, but it required the same openness. Now, I made that point because when we talk about communicating from our scars, not our wounds. We’re talking about being open to all degrees.
Darryll Stinson: Okay. And, and, and I think it’s important for people to know that maybe if you struggle with talking about your trauma. Maybe you can grow in talking about your truth and maybe that’s easier for you to tackle and that openness will give you more freedom to talk about your pain or your trauma. Okay. So for some people, depending on their personality and their temperament, I’ll lean them towards whatever direction that’s has the most ease to it.
Darryll Stinson: Not easy.
Nancy Levin: Yep.
Darryll Stinson: But the most ease. So if it’s like, oh, this thing that happened to me, my divorce, my, my, my, my childhood trauma, my parents that abuse me, my girlfriend that left me, [00:30:00] if they, and if they’re like, Uhuh, nope. Don’t go over there. I’m like, okay. What about what you strongly believe in? What’s happening in your industry that you’re frustrated at seeing that you’re not actually speaking up about?
Darryll Stinson: It’s like, well, I’ll tell you. I say, okay, come on. Start there. Yeah, let that, let that go. Come on. Give us some of that. And from doing that, now they’ve got more openness. Then it’s like, oh, now talk about your trauma. They’re like, okay, sure. They got used to being open and it was easier for ’em to say this side of the spectrum.
Darryll Stinson: So I would say from people like play with like, there’s no right or wrong in that. Just choose. Find where there’s ease for you on that spectrum and practice being open because vulnerability is not just sharing your darkest trauma, it’s also standing in your deepest truth. And you do that through the openness of you.
Nancy Levin: Mm. Yeah. Yeah.
Nancy Levin: So as, as you look at, you know, the movement you’re building Yeah. And really where, where [00:31:00] you are shifting in your own growth and evolution as well as the way that you are training others. What, what is the, what’s the legacy you are longing to leave behind?
Darryll Stinson: I. Wow. Man, it’s so funny. I got asked this question in Vegas on data Mel ER’s office hours bill for the first time, and this is the second time I’ve been asked.
Darryll Stinson: Okay. But I’m taking that as like my invitation to lean deeper. Yeah. Into the future of my legacy. Let me preface the statement of just speaking to Legacy for a second because Sure. I remember Michael Hyatt nine, 10 years ago, um, had his coaching program, had me write a eulogy
Nancy Levin: Yeah.
Darryll Stinson: Um, that somebody would read at my funeral about me.
Darryll Stinson: And I remember everything that I wrote in that eulogy. Um, and I had my wife be the person that would read it. I said everything that I wrote there in order for it to be true, [00:32:00] I would have to live it today. In order for somebody to say all these amazing, wonderful things about the impact I made, the influence I had, the greatness, the way that I gave, the way that I loved, like I would have to live like that today and consistently the majority of the days of my life.
Darryll Stinson: I think it’s an important point to mention because when people think of legacy, they always think about, how will I be remembered? And they’re like, I wanna be remembered for this. And I don’t think they always translate it to their daily actions. Yeah. And so for me, that was a big shift in my mentality of like, oh, I want to build something that I can be remembered for.
Darryll Stinson: So I want to live in a way today in a way that would be remembered. And so for me, I want to be known for how I love and for how I give period. That’s it. I want people to be like he loved deeply. He gave generously in the realm of speaking and thought leadership. I believe that I am going to pioneer the next generation of spiritual communicators.
Darryll Stinson: I actually believe I [00:33:00] gotta download that two thirds of the world we’re gonna be influenced by speakers that I train. And so I feel like. The future legacy of the word is helping people to understand that the most powerful communicators aren’t the best ORs. They’re the most available vessels for the divine to flow through.
Darryll Stinson: And in order for you to be an available, useful, special vessel, you have to have deep self connection, and you have to have emotional, mental, spiritual capacity, right? What we eat and put in our body, healthy, organic, high vibrational foods is going to be a mandatory thing for communicators of the future because how can I feel the sensitivities [00:34:00] of how the divine’s trying to communicate through me if I’m suppressing it with cheeseburgers and french fries?
Darryll Stinson: I think that’s gonna be a big part of the work. Our emotional capacity, man, if we’re always constantly overwhelmed if we don’t have space to connect and expand, if we don’t have time and nature, we don’t have self-reflecting, solitude. How can we know ourselves enough when our truth is looking to emerge from my hearts?
Darryll Stinson: So I believe that that is the future of my own development. And that is also the future of the legacy that I’m supposed to share with others.
Nancy Levin: Mm. Darrell thank you. Thank you you so much. I, I just, I love you. I appreciate you. I’m going to bring you back and we are gonna do a deep dive on speaking, and I feel really grateful to have had this, you know, this heart connection time with you here.
Darryll Stinson: Yeah, me too.
Nancy Levin: And for everything you’ve shared.
Darryll Stinson: Thank you and I appreciate you and [00:35:00] how you show up, and I can’t wait to have you on our Seating Greatness podcast because yay. I love your vernacular around the inner work. I think you have such great ability to articulate with words, the intangible and the abstract.
Darryll Stinson: And that is a gift, my friend. And I know one that did not come easy, so I can’t wait to have you on as well.
Nancy Levin: Thank you. I so appreciate that. So for everyone listening, where is the best place for them to, to find you, connect with you, follow you?
Darryll Stinson: Yeah, man. All, all places. Stinson speaks, um, on all social platforms.
Darryll Stinson: And then darryl stinson.com on my website, they hit me up. I’m I’m Googleable.
Nancy Levin: Great. I’m Googleable indeed. You are my friend. All right. Thank you so much and I look forward to the next time that we reconnect, and for everyone listening, we’ll be back again together next week.
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