What If You REALLY Did Have the Time?
Does the idea of putting yourself first feel unimaginable? A little like a fairy tale made up by someone who has no idea what it’s like to live your life? When I first meet clients, the thing I most often hear is that they’d LOVE to put themselves first, it’s just that their life […]
Why Your Rituals Are So Important
Each of us has daily rituals. Some of our rituals began when we were very young – handed down from our parents or adopted along the way. We brush our teeth, we drink coffee, we might go for a daily walk or meditate each morning. We may even have a favorite chair or sleep with […]
Do You Know Your Nonnegotiables?
There’s a transformation that happens when you go from being single to falling in love and getting into a relationship that’s often overlooked. And I’m not talking about how the world suddenly looks brighter and you feel like you’re one of the “lucky” ones. No, I’m talking about the stance you take on your […]
Is Self-Confidence the Key to Happiness?
It seems obvious that self-confidence might be a necessary ingredient for greater happiness and personal satisfaction. But according to Psychology Today, self-confidence is the essential ingredient when it comes to living a happy life. It’s tied to reducing fear and anxiety, and creating the resiliency to handle life’s rocky moments. So, why is it that […]
Do You Really Still Need Permission?
Why is it that we need permission to put ourselves first? It’s as if we’re walking through life on autopilot, waiting for someone to tell us that it’s ok to have what we want and enjoy life. Or we stuff our needs down so far, and for so long, they can’t help but bubble to […]
Let’s Celebrate INTERdependence!
Louise Hay, founder of Hay House, motivational author and dear friend, once told me that I deserved an Academy Award for my portrayal as the “perfect wife.” Together, my husband and I had managed to build a strong façade for the outside world of the perfect couple. I thought everyone must look at our […]
Are You Telling Yourself the Truth?
We’ve all heard the saying “the truth will set you free”. But did you know that the truth will also help you set a boundary? Boundaries are so difficult for so many of us to set. Instead of saying our peace, we’d rather stay quiet, stuffing down our needs and holding back until we can […]
Introducing Boundary Badassery
Boundaries make freedom possible. The kind of freedom that most of us dream about each and every day. The freedom we believe will happen “when” and “if” we suddenly and miraculously are removed from our current reality and transported to the fantasy of what we believe our life could be. We think the freedom […]
How Your Fears Prevent You from Setting Boundaries
Learning to set effective boundaries is the key to living a happy life where our needs take priority. But for most of us, setting boundaries seems like the hardest thing we can do. Instead of setting boundaries and being clear about the consequences, most of us resort to making demands and then backing away […]
How to Quiet the Noise in Your Head
“Who are you to put yourself first?” “They’ll never say yes to what I want, so why bother.” “I am never going to amount to anything.” The chatter inside your head can feel overwhelming – filling you with so much fear, worry, and dread that it makes you want to run as far away as […]