We’ve reached week 5 of The Art of Change Book Club!
During our time together, we’ve learned how to adjust our beliefs and embrace our wholeness so we can take the actions that will keep us aligned with our vision.
This week, we’re going to focus on the scaffolding that holds all the other dimensions in place. The fifth dimension of reinvention is boundaries.
Week 5: Boundaries
Boundaries: the limits you set to define what you will and will not do, and what you will or will not accept or tolerate.
We’ve likely developed an aversion to boundaries because we think of them as restrictive or limiting or even inconvenient for others. Boundaries limit my options. Boundaries are selfish. Boundaries cause conflict.
If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. Most of us are trained to fit into the mold of what we think others want us to be, and that usually involves crossing our own boundaries.
The problem is that when we don’t hold our boundaries, we’re much more susceptible to being pulled out of our center and away from our vision.
In truth, boundaries are a major source of freedom. When we maintain our boundaries, we begin developing a loving relationship with ourselves that allows us to prioritize our needs. This supports us in taking actions and making choices that keep us aligned with our vision.
In order to build healthy boundaries, you need to get into the habit of placing yourself at the center of your own life.
Start by exploring your answers to these questions:
- What beliefs or excuses currently prevent you from maintaining your boundaries? Do you feel guilty when you try? Selfish? Are you afraid of not being liked or displeasing others?
- What is one thing you want more of in your life? One thing you want less of? Which boundaries will help you get what you need?
This week, I invite you to return to you if you find your attention drifting to other people.
Give yourself permission to show up for yourself and your needs, prioritize your preferences, and fulfill your desires.
For more guidance, you can pick up The Art of Change for the daily prompts and exercises that will help you get in touch with what you will and will not accept, and will and will not do in your life.
Before you know it, setting boundaries will become a natural way of life.
Until next week.