Whose life are you living?
For years, I sublimated my own desires in service of my husband’s. I wasn’t living my own life. Poet David Whyte has said that if you are living the life you are meant to live, someone will inevitably feel betrayed by it. My ex-husband can legitimately say that I betrayed him by having an affair. […]
Are you keeping money secrets?
Secrecy about money is quite common in families, especially between siblings, and between parents and adult children. We’re secretive about money for a variety of reasons. Usually, it’s a result of one of the following: (1) we feel we have to protect our money from others, or (2) we feel we’re going to be judged […]
Do you feel worthy enough to receive?
In order to have more, we have to change our thinking, behaviors, and habits related to self-worth—little by little. As we do that, we can continue to increase our “worth threshold.” This means that we allow ourselves to receive more and more. We walk around thinking, “Hey, I will happily let myself receive! Give me […]
Is money an emotional issue for you?
“What if she asks me to do something scary? What if she shames me for the way I’ve handled my money? What if she has me invest my money, and I lose it all, ending up with nothing?” Those were the “what ifs” that came up for me when I hired my financial advisor, Melissa […]
Your Love/Hate Relationship with Money
I’m not a CPA or a financial advisor. I’m no economics wizard. But I’ve lived the steps in my latest book, Worthy: Boost Your Self Worth to Grow Your Net Worth. That doesn’t mean I’m “Miss Perfect” when it comes to my self-worth or my relationship with money. This is a lifelong process, so I’m still working […]
When we feel that we aren’t enough, or that we aren’t good enough, we also fear that we’ll never have enough. That fear is a self-fulfilling prophecy, in which we unconsciously make sure we never, ever have all that we need. It’s a painful arithmetic going on in the shadows of our unconscious, which many […]