Setting Effective Boundaries in Your Relationship
Most cultures around the world have historically revered martyrdom. We’re taught that self-sacrifice is a virtue; that the more we take care of others, the better. From the time we’re little kids we get the message—in school and often at home—that we aren’t worthy of love unless we’re “good.” And what does “goodness” mean? It […]
Getting Zen About Boundaries
If you’re someone who’s struggled with setting (and maintaining) boundaries, then the idea that you might be able to share your needs without anxiety, disappointment or disagreement feels impossible. At least, that’s how it was for me. For most of my life, I was a people-pleaser. The thought of sharing my needs with another seemed […]
How Your Fears Prevent You from Setting Boundaries
Learning to set effective boundaries is the key to living a happy life where our needs take priority. But for most of us, setting boundaries seems like the hardest thing we can do. Instead of setting boundaries and being clear about the consequences, most of us resort to making demands and then backing away […]